For some reason, I’ve never struggled with confidence. Like most people I’ve doubted myself a few times here and there, but for the most part I’ve been a very confident individual. I truly believe that’s something that starts in the home. For as long as I can remember my family pushed me to be a leader, to never follow –but to always lead. In order to be a leader, you must be confident. So teaching myself I was good enough for anything I wanted to do or wanted to become came natural for me. Plus, I’m a leo… so naturally confidence is a part of who I am. Unfortunately that circumstance isn’t the same for everyone, and that’s understandable. Here are 5 steps for growing your confidence.
I. Believe in yourself. It’s scary to think that most people aren’t willing to believe in who they are, and are driven by their own insecurities. In order to be confident you must be willing to believe in yourself and what you’re capable of; even if whatever you’re taking on is something completely new. Know that, even in the face of adversities you’re capable of adapting and handling whatever may come your way. Own who you are, and be proud of it.
II. Follow your passion. When you follow your passion you tend to do things you love. In return, because you are doing things you know well and love, you will be more confident about what you’re doing. Personally, I always try to find something new I love (recent likes: dining alone, podcasts, and magazine clipping) , because it makes me feel enlightened on who I am. Not only does it open the door to find out more about yourself, but it also shows you things that you don’t like so much (recent dislikes: party planning and fancy events.)
III. Be around other confident spirits. I’m a firm believer in the idea, “You are the company you keep.” If you’re around insecure and subpar people, well … let’s just say, you’re probably not the best of the bunch either. Surround yourself with individuals who are complex and secure in who they are. You can learn from others who know what they want and are confident in getting it.
IV. Use systems. Some people need routines because they work more effectively that way. If you become reserved when there is chaos and things are hectic, try to avoid it. Keep a system for your every-day life so that you can have more control; even if that means scheduling agendas and daily activities.
V. Know that confidence comes with maturity. I was definitely the flower-child who proudly marched to the beat of my own drum, but not everyone is like that. If you are struggling with confidence that’s okay. Sometimes we get caught up in people-pleasing that we forget to please the person who matters most. One thing you will learn is that, confidence comes with age and maturity. After all of those years of trying to satisfy others, you will magically become content with yourself not care about other’s opinions.