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Part Two of My Eloquii x Draper James Obsession

If you don’t know already, I pretty much feel like this Draper James collection for Eloquii was made for me! All of the beautiful patterns and shapes literally speaks to my life on so many levels. I’m not surprised that Reese Witherspoon spearheaded this collection herself, after all she is the ultimate southern belle.

There was one more look that I couldn’t resist sharing, it was this one-of-a-kind midi skirt (linked here) and this adorably fun striped shirt (linked here). While most would shy away from mixing patterns, leave it to me to break the rules honey! I found that this fun skirt and this stripe button up worked seamlessly together.

Aside from how fun and flirty this look is, I really want to chat about something you can’t necessarily “see,” and that’s THE QUALITY of the clothes. I’ve been shopping Eloquii for a while now; in fact, it’s a fave amongst some of my friends. Literally 99% of my boss/mentor’s closet is Eloquii (Hi Toya!) What I find that makes us all returned customers is the craftsmanship in Eloquii’s clothes. You literally get what you pay for, in a good way. The quality of the materials are made to endure long-term wear, and the extra details from the company takes your personal shopping experience to the next level. I’m usually leaping for joy every time an Eloquii package arrives at my door.

To shop the full Draper James X Eloquii collection CLICK HERE

Fighting Anxiety By Being Present

One of the hardest things for me is to let my guard down enough to just … be. I over plan, over analyze, and some times it forces things to spiral out of control. The fact is, I can’t control everything. HD constantly reminds me to “chill”, and surprisingly that’s the toughest thing for me to do.

This year I’ve been intentional with just being present. Little things like, putting my phone away, not recording the moment but instead capturing it in my mind for my own personal memories has really helped. Being present for me means more than just tapping out of social media or work … it’s also about centering myself, finding balance and suppressing my anxiety.

I worry too much, and each day I am constantly battling anxiety. Some people think that anxiety means you’re depressed or you’re sinking in your own crap. It’s not that. For me, I’m anxious … I’m constantly calculating, planning, figuring things out even when I shouldn’t be. A payment that’s not due for two or three months … I’m already panicking over. And even in those little anxious moments, I’ve learned to just clock out and be; and let God provide for me.

The craziest part is, things ALWAYS work out. So I don’t understand why I stress myself out so much behind it. I’ve learned, it’s habit because I’m the planner, coordinator, manager, and doer of my tribe, so I’ve learned to take on these stressful situations by default.

 

Then scripture hits me, ‘Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God’

and that’s it. that’s the answer … when adversities come, we’re simply suppose to pray and submit it to God and let him handle it. Because remember … if it’s for us, we will have it if (and only if) it’s according to his will for us.

Xx,

Triena

My 2018 Intentions … Better Late Than Never!

It’s nearly March, and I’m just now getting around to mapping out my intentions for the year. Mesita (my new girlfriend that also happens to be the Bridal Shop Owner that designed my custom wedding dress) shared with me the difference in having intentions versus goals. I’ve learned that intentions are actions that I am working on, while goals are merely a thought. So this year I decided to share my intentions with you all …

  1. Be Present. I’m a planner, so naturally I’m always forward thinking. I tend to over think sometimes which causes me to loses out on living in the moment even if it’s just for a split second. I got a glimpse of living in the moment at my wedding… HD and I really had the time of our lives in 8 hours. And every chance I get to reflect back and relive those moments, I do. I loved the feeling that I felt at my wedding, surrounded by everyone I love and standing in that moment in time. It taught me that every day I need to bask in my present-self.
  2. Save More For Things I Want. Again, another valuable lesson I learned from wedding planning was my ability to save! HD and I planned the wedding of our dreams in less than 12 months, stashing away lump sums of money at a time. It taught me that I could do this more often! It showed me that there are certain things that I can live without (excessive Target spending lol) and that things can get done with prioritizing and being consistent.
  3. Let Go of People Pleasing. This has honestly been my toughest lesson. I’m a people pleaser; I over accommodate and try to meet the needs of everyone I care about. It really takes a toll on me. I always end up getting the short end of the stick, or working too hard to make sure everyone in my camp is good. I’ve learned that, it’s not fair to me. This year I’m intentionally going to work on pleasing myself instead of others.
  4. Increase My Credit. HD and I have real goals –big ones and they require a strong foundation. I’ve learned that a 700+ credit score is more valuable than 200 grand in the bank. So we’re working towards that 700+ score! Wanna join me on this journey? I’m going to start a ‘credit challenge’ in the next few months so please be on the lookout.
  5. Treat Myself. If you know me, you know I work REALLY HARD. Somedays I’m typing away at my computer for my clients for 14 hours straight, while other times I’m traveling between 4 airports in 48 hours. I want to learn to take a breather and treat myself. I deserve that facial, or a nice pedicure. I work hard for it! And this year I’m going to honor myself by going the extra mile to treat myself.

What are some of your intentions for this year?

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